Hollywood Hookers! What’s the big deal?
Hollywood is a destination that lures in people who believe that they have what it takes to make it to the top of the Entertainment Industry. A city that attracts people from all over the world – like flies to honey – all clamoring for the ‘outside hope’ that they, too, will become famous. An ‘outside hope’ because the pool of talent and beauty is so deep and so heavily saturated, that it makes standing out and succeeding about as easy as winning the lottery.
As a result, Hollywood is full of ‘starving artists’ who spend their days and nights working at restaurants and bars, allowing them flexible schedules – let’s just say that the waiters and bartenders of Los Angeles are the best looking waiters and bartenders in the world. But at least, they are working; legitimately trying to earn a living while honing their craft and praying for a lucky ‘lottery winning ticket’ kind of a break. However, the road to securing a ‘winning ticket’ is not often paved with gold, and that is where this twisted tale of the Hollywood Hookers begins.
Now, I am not talking about your average street-walking Hollywood Hooker, like Divine Brown, who became infamous for getting caught giving Hugh Grant a blow job on Sunset Boulevard – resulting in his arrest and her fame/infamy . And I am not talking about the high class call girl that you find sitting at every high end bar in every city, worldwide.
Hollywood Hookers are different, as there exists in this entertainment driven city, a sort of acceptance that paying for sex is an acceptable trade for goods received. Perhaps this all started with the ‘casting couch’ – Hollywood heavies promising parts in movies in exchange for sexual acts performed. Of course, a promise is not a contract, and the promise often only lasts as long as the sexual encounter.
Not everyone is willing to bust their ass waiting tables. Some people fall under the spell of a Hollywood Madam, who promises easy money, and safer sex in exchange for services rendered. Escort services with high class call girls go back to the golden age of Hollywood, and the often glorified Madams keeping the Hollywood Elite ‘Hooker Happy Hook-ups’ private and discreet.
However, the most rampant and pervasive of the Hollywood Hookers often look like the girl next door, and that is because, most likely, they are the girl next door. In a city flooded with talent, and in a city where the cost of living is exorbitant, some girls or guys seek financial security in a wealthy partner who is willing to pay for their company.
The most obvious being the magnitude of May-December Hollywood relationships floating around town. Perhaps it is possible that a small percentage of these romances are based on legitimate love, but seriously – what does a 30 year old woman have in common with a 60 year old man? How many 30 year old women think sagging balls are a turn on? In LA, there are so many ‘old men’ out with ‘young girls’ that after living here for a while, these relationships go almost unnoticed. Believe me; both sides know the price they are paying when they enter into these relationships. I am sorry, but if you are hanging out and sleeping with someone so that he pays your rent, because you are too lazy to bust your butt, then you are selling your body and you are a ….Hollywood Hooker.
However, the most prevalent of the Hollywood Hookers, are the girls who go onto certain ‘dating sites’. Well, ‘dating site’ would be a stretch: the ‘Sugar Daddies’, or ‘Sugar Daddy for me’ sites are not about dating; they are about younger girls hooking up with older men who pay them for sex. I have both male and female friends who have been or who are currently on these sites, and while I try not to be judgmental, there are consequences engaging in this type of an arrangement.
Why GUY Friend seeks out Hollywood Hookers ‘Sugar Babies’:
GUY Friend is a successful, 49 year old man, handsome if you are attracted to a slightly balding, 5 foot 7 investment banker type. But what he lacks in height, he makes up for in personality. GUY Friend frequents these sites not, because he is ‘updateable’; rather, because, the girls who go on these sites are stating upfront what they want: a ‘Sugar Daddy’ to ‘take care of them.’ TRANSLATION…they can be bought. He explained to me that there are two types of girls on these websites: the outright Hollywood Hookers chicks who, during their first conversation state up front that ‘meeting them’ will cost $1200; and the second type, the ones he prefers, and refers to as ‘Semi-Pros’. GUY Friend said that he has no interest is hanging out with a girl who is an out and out Hooker, so he seeks out the ‘Semi-Pros’.
GUY Friend has figured out a way to screen these women so that he only ends up with the ‘Semi-Pros’. He states up front that prostitution is illegal and that he is not paying for sex. And while he never promises money for sex he lures them in with emails about his high end car, his Malibu beach house – he lets them know that he has money, and tells them that he is a generous guy. You see, ‘Semi-Pros’ still want something for sex, but they might be willing to trade their bods for material goods. (On a personal note, I don’t see the different receiving cash or a handbag for boning, but umm, well…on to the story)
Sometimes GUY Friend meets the ‘Semi-Pros’ out for a drink, or sometimes they come directly to his place – regardless of how they initially meet – they bang right away. But the end result is always the same…at some point after their sexual romp, they ask him to pay their rent, and when he declines – because as he already told them that he wasn’t paying for sex – they ask… and I swear to GOD this is what they ask…they ask him to buy them a pair of Christian Louboutin shoes.
The request for the Christian Louboutin shoes is so pervasive that GUY Friend told me that whenever he sees a girl wearing a pair of Christian Louboutin shoes, he automatically assumes they are a hooker. (I informed him I have friends who wear these shoes and they are definitely NOT hookers). And of course, he doesn’t buy them the shoes, and the ‘relationship’ ends – she searches out another daddy, and he another baby.
GUY Friend is really scamming these girls, and he knows it – but he doesn’t care. Why? Because the girls have signed up to a site that subliminally implies sex for money – Hollywood Hookers, on line. He has told me he feels bad for a few of them, and gives them a bit of money here and there, but for him this is the easiest way for him to have sex, with minimal effort and minimal cost. He doesn’t have to spend hours talking with a girl, wining and dining her in the hopes that at some point she will put out. In essence, it’s an effortless, effective way to procure pussy.
But what he gains sexually, he loses emotionally. There is no attachment in an arrangement of this nature, and there is a part of GUY friend who really craves the companionship that only comes in a real relationship. But when he falls for a ‘real girl’, he becomes easily discouraged at the effort and work it takes, and quickly goes back to his ‘Sugar Papa’ ways.
Why GIRL Friends become ‘Sugar Baby’ Hollywood Hookers
I have several GIRL Friends who have gone down this route, and always for the same reason – money: Money to pay their bills, money so they can pursue their acting and have time to audition without having to work, money.
The smart ones end up with ‘Daddies’ who ‘keep’ them for long periods of time. They fly them in when they want to see them, and they send them monthly checks to cover their expenses. Five thousand dollars a month or more – tax free – for a trip or two a month to see a guy. The ‘Daddies’ offer a lifestyle that is otherwise unattainable – trips, gifts – it’s like having a generous boyfriend, except the boyfriend is keeping you instead of loving you.
Some of these relationships go on for years, genuine affection often resulting out of an illicit reunion until that time when….the GIRL Friend does something that really pisses the Daddy off. Men literally ‘buy’ into these types of relationships, because – well, for them it’s like leasing a car: when the car starts to have problems, or gets worn, they can easily trade it in for a new model.
My GIRL Friends that have engaged in these arrangements find themselves tossed aside when they do anything that disappoints the ‘Daddy’: if they decide not to go and see him when requested, if they bother him with their problems, if they aren’t happy and carefree when they visit – most of these men have wives and mistresses already who drain them emotionally, so the last things they want is another ‘needy’ or difficult relationship. When these relationships end, the cut is quick, usually unexpected, severe and final because – the ‘deal’ literally is done – the relationship ‘lease’ has expired.
And while I hate to think of any of my friends as Hollywood Hookers, the truth is in the pudding, having sex for money – in whatever form it comes – is prostitution. No matter how you compartmentalize and justify your actions, you are still trading your body in for cash.
So What are the Consequences of the Hollywood Hookers Lifestyle?
Regardless of what you think of men who justify paying for sex, or women who justify selling their bodies for sex, there has to be a toll on their soul. My mother once told me that ‘in life, the only person you have to worry about liking you is the one you see when you look into a mirror.’ I hope that somehow this is still true for those who knowingly sell themselves short.
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