KISSING FROGS? Who in their right mind would want to kiss a frog? A warty, slimy frog! KISSING FROGS…UGH! I am sure KISSING FROGS has never been on the top of your to-do list. However, I am also certain your mother or someone else has told you, or reminded you over and over again, that – ‘You have to kiss a lot of Frogs before your find your Prince.’
We can blame this gross KISSING FROGS notion on the ‘harmless’ bedtime Fables and Fairytales that were read to us as kids; the same ones that as adults, we continue to read to our children. The Brothers Grimm Fable ‘The Frog Prince’ (damn, their name Grimm really says it all), tells the tale of a lonely young Princess who promises friendship to a Frog in exchange for him saving her stupid golden ball that fell into a pond. A friendship, that she tried to renege on, until her father – The King – told her that “a promise is a promise”. Somehow, out of pity – and after a series of Fairytale like events – the Princess kissed the frog, and VOILA! He of course turned into a Handsome Prince. Hmmm…. So I guess this is where the KISSING FROGS myth-shit commenced???
We all grew up with Fairytales that flooded our early imaginations with stories comprised of magical characters and images that imprinted our young minds. As a result, when girls mature into women, many of us are still looking for our ‘Knight in Shining Armor’, or our ‘Prince Charming’ to come in and make complete our ‘Fairytale’ image of what our perfect man should be. And as we have been told since we were young, we expect to have to gut up – (or man up, LOL) – and be prepared, lip gloss ready, to engage in that long established courtship regiment of – KISSING FROGS – and as the fable goes, we know we might have to kiss a lot of Frogs to find our Prince.
For centuries, the KISSING FROGS metaphor has been ‘Motherhood’ or ‘Sisterhood’s way of trying to lessen the hurt of a relationship that doesn’t work out, or a way to have women ‘keep the faith’ that the right man will come along, as long as they persevere… becoming a harmless metaphor that has helped heal heartache.
But is the idea of KISSING multitudes of FROGS truly harmless? Should we really be instilling in young women the notion that they need to kiss a lot of frogs in order to find their Prince? In 2016, the 21st century (no longer the ‘grim’ mid-17th -Grimm Brothers- century), here are some things to consider:
- Back in the day, kissing a lot of frogs to find your Prince meant that maybe you would have to pucker up to 2 or 3 frogs. In 2016 we start KISSING FROGS at a younger age, and by the time most hopeful young Princesses are 30, some have kissed into the double or – God forbid – the triple digits. That is a lot of frog kissing.
- As well, back in the day, KISSING FROGS was a discerning task. Today ‘undiscerning’ would more accurately describe how we now go about KISSING FROGS: KISSING FROGS of all ages, KISSING FROGS we just met, KISSING FROGS that belong to another, KISSING FROGS because they will buy us a nice dinner or pay our rent, KISSING FROGS because we drank too much frog juice – the list could go on and on. And what does this random, undiscerning frog kissing lead to?
- Well, we know that you truly can’t get warts from KISSING FROGS (or Toads) – but in 2016, if you kiss a lot of frogs, you might end up with a special kind of wart called HPV, or leaky warts called Herpes.
- And, if that isn’t bad enough, your reckless ‘Adventures in KISSING FROGS’ might be captured in action and posted to social media for the world to see.
- And do you really think your ‘Prince Charming’ or ‘Knight in Shining Armor’ will want a Princess who has kissed every frog in the pond, and who might have some nasty warts as a result?
Unfortunately, as I am still single, the undeniable truth is that I still might need to kiss a few more frogs until my ‘Prince’ comes in. But even though I have, evidently, picked the wrong frogs so far, I have always and still believe that when it comes to KISSING FROGS, quantity doesn’t necessarily make for better frog prospects. I have never wanted to kiss every cute frog in Town, or kiss a frog because he buys me gifts – I have always had a discerning eye when it comes to KISSING FROGS. And even though I am still single, at least – I am not married to a loser frog, a cheating frog, or an abusive frog.
So maybe we should modernize this KISSING FROGS Fairytale a bit……
So Princess, you live in LA, it’s a tough pond. Some of the young Prince froglets will try to lure you over to their side of the pond; they might even want you to share your lily pad right away. You might see many of the other young Princess froglets hopping around sharing their lily pads, and you might feel the pressure to fit in and hop along too. But if you wait young Princess and watch, you will learn from their mistakes. And as you look across the pond, and watch all the hopping around, eventually you will be the only one standing still. And when you are standing still, and the pond is clear, the best of the Prince froglets will see that you are different, you are unique, and that you are strong enough to stand alone.
And true beauty, young Princess, is being noticed because you are unique and strong, and that is what makes you special.
So just remember…
When you are single, and when you truly enjoy being single and enjoy your life, and you don’t worry and obsess about finding your Prince – then your strength becomes a beautiful power that will inevitably leave your path free for the right frog to hop on in!
So the moral of this story is…
- Never be afraid to stand out, do your own thing, or be different from the crowd. True beauty comes from inner strength and confidence. And that is the most powerful aphrodisiac.
- And you don’t necessarily have to kiss a bunch of frogs before your Prince comes in, because your Prince will come in when he is supposed to – when you are the happy, strong, confident women you are meant to be.
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